Why I’m a Writer and You’re Not

In the last six weeks, I’ve been given a 1,400-page unpublished novel to read, asked to sign a printout of a blog post I wrote called “Fuck This Shit,” posed for a Snapchat that was sent to “this girl I know who likes to read,” and hit on for sex (twice) and an egg donation (once). All without even leaving this goddamn house.

They’re now calling this place a “writers’ retreat,” and I’m now a “writing fellow.” My presence is advertised in the brochure as a perk: paying guests get to rub elbows with the esteemed fellows, “promising young writers who have already achieved substantial recognition and are honing their craft.” Fuck that. If I didn’t shit out the next Great American Novel when it was just us staying here—and I didn’t—these goddamned rubberneckers aren’t going to make that outcome any more likely.

I made it through the first 28 years of my life without being labeled “a writer.” I just wrote sometimes. Most of what I wrote got thrown away or lost or rolled up and smoked, and if it’s ungrammatical to write “got thrown away,” I can’t tell you, because the only people who ever read anything I wrote were teachers who were incompetent (grade school), lazy (high school), or stoned (college).

I was the “outsider” picked for this program, the “vernacular stylist,” as Arts & Letters Daily put it. Now I’m officially a “writer”—and, worse, a “fellow.” I’ve been certified by someone with money (because that’s all that really matters, even in the world of Arts & Letters) as a Writer Who Matters, and therefore I’m assumed to have things like a Process, an Aesthetic, and a Trajectory.

Being able to assemble coherent sentences does not make me special, it makes me your mom. Writing about sex and drugs does not make me Jack Kerouac, it makes me someone who was a 28-year-old college dropout working at the kind of service-sector job where if you don’t steal from the register or bone the manager (and then bone someone else), you don’t get fired. Writing online does not make me “alt lit,” it makes me someone who doesn’t have a book contract.

Here’s what made me a “writer”: I said I was. Only once, but that was all it took. I wrote one cover letter for one program and said, “I’m a writer from Columbus, Ohio.” They believed me, and gave me some money, and now everyone suddenly wants to know what angle to the sun I prefer when I compose prose. All because I said I was a writer, which I did because I didn’t give a fuck what a “writer” was. I still don’t give a fuck, and you do, and that’s why I’m a writer and you’re not.


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On Bad Decisions

Here’s the thing about bad decisions. Once you’ve been making them for long enough, you’re hooked. You think that fucking up constitutes the essence of your being, that there’s something essential about you that would be lost if you started doing what everyone’s been telling you to do for your entire life.

It’s a trap, of course. You’re doing the math wrong in your head: you’re telling yourself that because people you don’t like are telling you to do something, the enjoyment you get out of doing the opposite thing is a sign that you’re heading in the right direction. Actually, though, you’re just falling more and more into their control—because you’re losing control of your own life, and you’ll increasingly depend on their largesse.

The fucked-up fact of the matter is that you have to do what they’re telling you to do. That’s the only way you’ll ever take control of your own life. You have to do whatever it takes to be able to do it. Go far away from the people so that they don’t see you doing what they’ve been telling you to do, so you’re as clear as possible about the fact that it’s your decision and not theirs.

That’s my theory, anyway. We’ll see if it works.

Right now I’m pretty damn far from the people I like least in this world. It would be a lie to say I feel positively about the people I’m living with now, but at least I feel something closer to neutral. I feel tied to them, like they’re a sort of family. Unlike my original family, they didn’t run away when shit started to go bad.

Well, actually, one of them did. So never mind. I don’t even fucking know.

I do know I’m glad not to be in Ohio, and to be back in a room that feels like mine. I’m not sure what I think about all these bitch-ass tourists who are here now, gawking at us like we’re robot animals in a theme park. That’s what this place has turned into now—a goddamn theme park. The fucked-up thing is that the more shit I talk about it, the more cred I establish for the house as a place where hard-boiled writer types live. That’s the price of us fucking up the first time: now the gawkers aren’t just on the Internet, they’re under our roof. At least they’re not in our beds.

Yet.


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Ten Things I’ve Been Fucking Up for the Last Eight Months

1. My career. It’s not so much that I’ve been fucking up my career as that I’ve been fucking up having a career beyond serving bar-rush sausage and biscuits. My career as a writer consists entirely of one abandoned fellowship that ended in an overdose and a drug bust, but somehow that still eclipses anything else I’ve managed to accomplish in my life.

2. My friendships. You know that guy who’s a good friend but he obviously always wants to sleep with you, and you know you shouldn’t but then you get drunk and you do and you immediately regret it because then you can’t just be friends any more? I have like eight of those guys, and after I got back to Ohio I slept with all eight of them again. So there go all my guy friends, and my one girlfriend is on an archeological dig in Australia. Makes Friday nights pretty damn bleak, and that’s coming from someone who used to be at the same small-town Minnesota bar every Friday and Saturday and Thursday and Tuesday and sometimes Monday and Wednesday night.

3. My relationships. I just want to date a nice guy, but the thing is that nice guys don’t stick around long when you’re also fucking all eight of your dude friends.

4. My family life. When you’ve fucked all eight of your dude friends and your one girlfriend is in Australia, it’s all too tempting to stay home on Friday night and split a bottle of whiskey with your dad and then yell at him for no reason. Well, no reason that you couldn’t have ignored when you were sober.

5. My car. The oil change sticker fell off, so that kind of wasn’t my fault.

6. My body. When you hang out with people who like to do drugs and go bowling, you realize that eight months have just gone by and all you have to show for it are meth teeth and athlete’s foot.

7. Scrabble. FUCK memorizing a list of two-letter words. It’s not fucking worth it. I’m telling myself this now, but just watch: next week Tanner’s gonna play “WO” and I’m gonna drive a tile rack into my left eye socket.

8. My online following. People say I should get on Twitter, but @LucyColeman is already taken by some dipshit who hasn’t said anything since 2009, and I have no idea how people are going to find me when I’m sharing the Internet with @LuLa86x, @LucheColeman, and @lucy1coleman. Maybe I’ll try the new MySpace. JT probably needs some friends.

9. My soul. Via pissing on a church.

10. My life. This was really meant to be a point in my existence when I would have something more compelling to do than go back to that fucking mudhole in central Minnesota. Sitting around and writing pissy blog posts for foundation money seems to be my destiny, except now they’re making me clean the bathrooms too. Christ. On. A. Fucking. Cracker.


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Should I Fuck My Client? (New Year’s Week: Chapter 8)

I knew I shouldn’t—which is why, I thought, I maybe should.

To be precise, he’s a client of the daycare center where I work, the dad of one of the kids. He’s married. His wife is hot, especially for her age, which is 40. She has curly red hair and half a dozen piercings and a tattoo sleeve with the Virgen de Guadalupe surrounded by flames. She likes to ask about my ink, which I don’t like to talk about but I was going along with it because if she liked me, I thought, that might make it easier for her husband to get away with fucking me sometime.

I wouldn’t pay any attention to him normally; he has a receding hairline and bad teeth. But he has the confidence of someone who’s pretty rich and doesn’t especially care too much whether you respond to his flirtation because there are a million more where you came from. I know there aren’t a million more like me, though—at least not in his world. I have big eyes and I’m just a little pudgy in just the right places and I’m a well-practiced flirt and I’m not stupid. Plus, I’m extra forbidden because I work a the daycare and his wife kind of loves me. So I knew he’d do pretty much whatever I wanted him to.

I let him take me out to dinner on December 26. He suggested it, of course, said something about thanking me for taking care of his daughter, how his wife liked me too, whatever. All I heard was what he was saying, which was, let’s fuck. I got off at 3:00, and his mom was picking his kid up after work to have a sleepover. His wife was out of town. I told him I’d meet him at Caruso’s steakhouse, where the steaks are like $80. I didn’t wait for his answer.

I don’t even need to tell you about dinner. I put on my one nice dress, he bought me five drinks and a steak, we talked about his work and my apartment and light politics and whatever. Obviously I did not mention Dave, and he didn’t mention his wife.

After dinner we stepped out the door of the restaurant and into the lobby of the adjoining hotel. Immediately, I knew what I was going to do. I gave him a hug tight enough for me to feel his boner and I left him standing there, blue-balled. I laughed as I texted Dave to tell him I was coming over, so he should run out and get me a pack of cigarettes.


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What I’m Looking Forward to About Moving Home for the Summer

Free food.

Not living with someone who’s constantly trying to fuck me. (God willing.)

Eating at Dirty Frank’s.

Making him (whoever he is) take me to his place, cause duh, I live with my dad.

Not having to keep my room presentable. (See above.)

Cable.

Treadmill. (Not for using myself, for putting the cat on.)

Good selection of bathroom reading.

Feeling zero guilt re: spending enough time with my dad.

Not having to say to anyone ever again, “I’m on a writing fellowship.”


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Things About Civilization I’m Not Looking Forward to Returning To

Windows operating systems

Conversations that go like this: “Did you see that one video?” “No. Where is it?” “On my wall.” “Oh. I didn’t see it.” “Yeah. My roommate posted a funny video below it. I forget what it was, but it was funny.”

Fraternities

Guys who want to fuck you, but don’t say so

Bleak downtown plazas

Houses where you have to take your shoes off

Not being able to drink and drive

Stone-fired pizza

Toll roads

Billboards

Personal injury attorneys

My family

Packing Up

Okay, we’re not actually packing—that will take five minutes, because basically I’ll just throw my clothes and laptop in my car and GTFO. But we’ve got less than two weeks left here now.

Really, we should be focusing our efforts on trashing the place, since I guess they’re going to be completely redoing it after we leave. It’s going to be—wait for it—a sober house. If it wasn’t going to be so fucking expensive, I’d suspect there might actually be a chance I’d end up here again someday.

We’re throwing a party for the townies on May 31, our last night here. They’re into it; they haven’t seen the inside of this place in, like, ever. We’re not inviting Daniel; shit just got too weird with him. I don’t know what he told the cops about the night Will died, but whatever he told them obvs wasn’t enough for them to leave Tanner alone.

People have been asking where I’m going to go. Back with my dad (damnit) at first, but then maybe somewhere else. Tanner’s getting a place with his friends in San Francisco, and they want me to move in with them, but that’s not going to happen unless the thousand-dollar fairy promises to visit me at least once a month.

I’ll go back to serving, maybe go back to school. I’ll figure some shit out. But I can guarantee you this: I’ll never write again.


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Our Legal System is Fucked

The fucking cops are bringing Tanner in again tomorrow. Seriously, they still haven’t settled shit about Will’s death? I mean, come on. It’s obvious Will took the pills himself. It sucks, it was an accident, case closed.

EXCEPT NOT.

First they had to search literally every corner of the house and grounds. They didn’t search our buttcracks, but I would seriously not have been surprised. They found some of Tanner’s stuff, but obvs it was different than the stuff Will had—no one knows where Will got those pills. Why does it matter? He’s dead, and he’s not coming back. Only because we’re in the middle of bumfuck nowhere Minnesota do the cops have nothing better to do than drag this out. I have no fucking idea what they’re going to ask Tanner that he hasn’t already told them.

That guy Daniel was the last one to see Will alive, but he’s only been in once. Once. Sketchoid bro living alone in his cabin and eye-raping girls, the only one to actually be in my boyfriend’s room with him the night he died, gets away with one quick Q&A and now he’s good.

Why? Because he’s local. Because he’s a local guy, and he’s probably like the cousin or the brother or the son of a cop who’s said, hey, this guy is good. If we need a scapegoat, let’s get that writer kid who’s been fucking all our wives. Listen, assholes, maybe your wives and girlfriends wouldn’t be jumping into bed with a newly-arrived man-whore (I call ‘em like I see ‘em) if you were home with them instead of hanging out at the station trying to come up with some remotely plausible story that will allow you to pin Will’s death on a person besides himself. Use your dicks, pigs, don’t inflate them with phony stories about us!

We only have to be here for 25 more days, and they can’t go by quickly enough for me. This whole project has been a fucking disaster, and the sooner I leave this backwards town in my rearview mirror, the better.


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Rain Is So Cozy When You’re With Someone, and So Fucking Bleak When You’re Alone

I remember the running and laughing and jumping over puddles and the sex, and the sex, and the sex, and the sex. Actually, I don’t really remember the sex so much as I remember the locations where it happened in my apartment, and that it was good.

I like taking wet clothes off, and I liked taking your wet clothes off. I remember hiding behind blinds the next day, but not for as long as I would have liked, because you had to go to a thing with your girlfriend’s family.

After you left, I went back and looked at my still-wet clothes on the floor and wondered whether I was using you, or using him, or getting used, or whether it all mattered. My upstairs neighbors were listening to their damn Pearl Jam album again, and I had a desperate sense of futility.

I hate relationships. They make me feel trapped. But I hate even more not being in them. There’s that place inside me that nothing can fill except someone who’s promised to be there, and to stay there, no matter what. What always ends up mattering, but as long as someone’s promised, I can believe and be content.

I hate writing about shit like this, but the alternative is just sitting here alone in the rain and eating myself alive. Here’s a piece of me for you to glance at, lick, taste, chew, spit out, ignore, whatever. It’s out of my system now.


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Types of People Whose Experiences I Understand

Twentysomethings

Women

Servers

Brunettes

The Small-Breasted

Minnesotans

French-Americans

White Girls

NuvaRing users

Smokers

Drinkers

Cheaters

People Whose Boyfriends Have Died of Accidental Drug Overdoses

People Whose Parents Have Mental Illness

People Whose Parents Are Divorced

People With Estranged Siblings

Narcissists/Writers

People